Stop Judging Yourself

It’s the opening moments of yoga class and we are asked to “set our intention.”  Instead, I start judging myself as I look at my reflection in the mirror. “I’ve put on weight. My hips and thighs are looking larger. Look at how wrinkly my skin is.” In a matter of seconds I size myself up and compare my body to other women in class.

So much for setting a positive intention for class.

I speak a lot about not letting the scale run your life and to resist comparing yourself to others or to a fitter, younger version of yourself. We are all human after all, and it’s difficult, even for me, not to fall into that comparison trap.

After a few moments of letting my mind wander, I snap out of it. I remind myself that no matter what happens today, I’m here. I showed up. My intention: stay on your own mat. Be the best I can be today. Accept whatever happens today, good or bad. And, then I’m reminded of Proverbs 14:30:

A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.

Envy, jealousy, they are evil emotions. We have a tendency to let other people and other things in our lives prevent us from even getting started. Everyone, including me and the people in my motivation and accountability group all had a “Day Zero” and we’ve all had setbacks in our lives. Our motto: to continue to show up and thrive so the good days outnumber the not-so-good.

The most difficult part of change is making a commitment to do something differently and taking the first step…without expectations and without judgement. Everyone has to start somewhere.

Set your intention just for today. Don’t worry about tomorrow and stop living in the past. Take things one-day-a-time. You might be surprised at how one day turns into 7, and then 30 and then 90.

I’m starting a new group on Monday, February 27th. The workouts are just 22 minutes long and there will be plenty of good, clean food to eat. There will be no judgement just positive support. If you’re ready for your Day Zero to turn into Day One, comment below.

I leave you with this post from Jenn A. I met Jenn a few years ago at the National Team Beachbody Summit. She’s been part of my online support and accountability group ever since. I draw strength from her and from so many others in our group every day.

“It will be 9 years in March that I made the decision to get stronger. I had already lost 40+ lbs with weight watchers but I was weak as water and headed straight into osteoporosis as a young woman. I thought then and there I was not going to be like my granny (God love her soul) and be fracturing my spine by just rolling over in my bed. I started P90X from the couch guys… Was I intimidated? HECK YES!!! But with determination I went from zero to P90X! I could barely eek out 1 push up from my toes but Tony said that was okay: “Do your best and forget the rest… “Which is what I did. Now at 46 I’m much stronger than I was at 36….or even 26!”

2 thoughts on “Stop Judging Yourself

  1. Love the Proverbs quote! Not comparing ourselves with others is easier said than done in this instant media age we live in. Thanks for the reminder. I will focus on this quote.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>