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BEST Before and Afters

What Were You Afraid of Before You Started and What’s Different Now?

I asked everyone in my motivation and accountability group to answer this question. Why? Because I’m so proud of what they’ve achieved. So many have been on a  positive path toward health and wellness for weeks, months and some…years. To my surprise almost 30 people responded to the question. I’ve provided a sampling of the responses I received.

See if their reasons for fear of starting resonate with you.

More important, listen to what has changed, how they overcame that fear and why they stick with it now.

As the saying goes, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar

“12 years ago when I lost 60 pounds, I had started and quit so many times. I had put on so much weight over the years and was resigned to the fact that women in my family just got big after having babies. I think in some sad way I just wanted to stay in my self-fulfilling prophecy…”see? It doesn’t work for me. I’m the exception to the rule.” It took seeing a picture of my backside after my 2nd child’s birth to decide that I wasn’t going to follow in the footsteps of the women in my family. My fear went from being afraid to try something new/change my lifestyle to being afraid of staying in that horrible place for the rest of my life. I guess you could say that I flipped my fear around to push myself forward. Today, the rewards are just too great to not keep it up. It’s second nature now.” – Heather L.

“I think my fear was not being able to keep up. What I really love about the Beachbody programs is the modification that is shown, and quite frankly, encouraged if things get sloppy. I find no matter which origami I use, I require modification. But I’ve come to terms with it, accept it and try to get better. In the end it really is the proper form that gives the results and keeps the injuries at bay. My daughter commented yesterday that I enjoy working out; to which I responded, yes I do.” – Joe V.

“I owned P90X for several years before I had the nerve to try it. It took something scarier, my dad being diagnosed with lung cancer, to start it. I quickly learned that exercise was my mental medicine. After years of doing various Beachbody programs, I still was intimidated. It wasn’t until this group and 22 Minute Hardcorps that I finally realized my best effort on any given day was enough. It wasn’t whether I could do Dreya rolls or gorilla crawls – it was that I tried. Wow – 52 is never too late to learn about yourself!!” – Jill D.

“My fear starting my first round of P90x (many years ago) was disappointing myself. I feared being so physically inept that I would just give up on myself. Thanks to Tony I didn’t. His humor and coaching helped me find that fearless athlete again. Fast forward to now: At 54 years young my fear has changed. I fear feeling apathetic, weak, tired and old. I never want to go back there. That doesn’t mean there aren’t days I dread it. I just know in the end it will help me feel better, stronger, kinder, more patient and loving. It helps me be the best version of myself. So I talk myself into it when I’m feeling tired, lazy and apathetic. The alternative is far worse. Thanks for asking!” – Julie B.

“I imagine it comes down to fear of the unknown mostly, Kit. Wondering how your body will do. For me, in the past, I was occasionally hesitant with really intense cardio because of only having the one lung. But NOW, I go full steam ahead and literally pause the program when I need to catch a few more breaths than the average bear – sometimes I need to pause it more than once. On those days, I am grateful I am at home working out (because I can pause it (unlike at a gym class) and I can maybe even cry a little. But I only pause and then I jump right back in. Never quitting, just pausing to find my breath. – Ilona K.

“I wasn’t an athlete growing up, so I think I was afraid of looking like I was trying to be something I’m not. Some of the athletes in high school were mean to the non-athletes like me. Turns out that I’m much more capable than I ever dreamed, and I wish I had known then that I it’s OK to try. Now, the only “fear” I have is really more like dread if on the schedule is a workout that I already know is going to wipe me out. But I still do it because I always feel better afterward.” – Carly P.

“Three years ago today I moved 500 miles from my hometown and left everything I knew behind. The life change wasn’t all bad but I did feel very isolated. I gained 20-23 pounds after having been a very fit person for most of my adult life. I was devastated by the way I felt and I no longer wanted to do much. I was afraid I could not fight hard enough to get back to normal. I attempted several times to start and then life would hand me a setback. In November of 2016 I put myself out there so to speak, scared of rejection, to see if anyone would want to work out with me on my neighborhood page. One person responded. We started working out together three days a week and I started to find joy and accountability in my workouts. I’m now within 5-8 pounds of where I think I need to be, but I’m actually ok with whatever I weigh now because I feel strong and confident and I have joy.” – Misty P.

 “For me I think it was like a lot of people “fear of the unknown” that kept me from starting P90X specifically (I’m now on my 4th round and done many other Beachbody programs). I had heard it was “extreme” and I wasn’t in the best shape at that point in my life so without getting the facts on what was really involved and how you could modify, I just kept on NOT doing it (even though a friend had a copy he said I could use any time…that coincidently he never started for the same reason! Haha). I finally got to a point in life where I knew I needed change so I just woke up one day and said “I’m going to do it!”
I wish I had made that decision way earlier but that’s life. Now a day isn’t properly started without a Beachbody workout of some kind to get me going.” -Eric A.

“When I started my first round of P90x I was afraid I was not capable of doing or finishing a program like that. I could barely do a push-up on my knees. In the past, I just fluttered back and forth from various workouts with long breaks in between when I let excuses get the best of me. Some people around me tried to discourage me saying I was going to look too manly lifting weights, but I am glad I did not listen. Little did I know that I would be hooked and actually look forward to my workouts. Best choice ever.” –Julie K

“Day 0 feeing: Can I do this for 30, 60, 90 days. Can I commit? Can I do it without getting injured? Multiple rounds later: knowing my body and knowing the difference between going 200% balls to the walls 24/7 and knowing when to pace myself and realize it’s not a race and each movement of each exercise of every workout total the sum of all parts for a better life of fit happiness. All this has proven to keep my body happy and injury-free.” Tony C.

“Humility. I had to come to grips that I didn’t know what I was doing.” – Kevin S.

Need to wipe away the fear? Message me. We’ve got room in our group and I can provide a personalized plan.

#50in15 and Walking Past Mirrors

I am at the airport, gearing up for my  flight. I stop into one of those shops that sell all the items people don’t normally need or eat but suddenly feel necessary to purchase to survive travel.18aebb55b502cec5ed5f7f263504ed33

I don’t allow my eyes to settle on the candy and chocolate for too long. I go straight to the cooler to grab a one-liter bottle of Smart Water® It will force me to stay hydrated and help prevent my ankles from swelling up like balloons on this 4-hour flight. Perhaps I’ll enjoy some light reading instead of working the entire trip. I peruse the magazine section and see all the young, hot bodies on the covers of magazines like Self, Women’s Fitness and Shape. I’m tempted to purchase one of those and then I notice the magazine; More. Tea Leoni is on the cover, currently starring in the TV drama Madam Secretary.  “Wow, she looks amazing,” I think and I know she is my age. I have the quick thought that the secrets to having her skin and lean body are behind the cover, so I buy that too.

As I peruse the article about Tea Leoni, I stop on a story she tells about a comment made about her at the age of 34. She heard a director telling someone that “despite her age she was still doable.” She was not so struck by the rudeness of the comment, but her reaction to it and asked herself if she was concerned about “being doable.” At the time, she was and how can we blame her with the pressure that comes with looking a certain way to get work in her profession. However, she went on to say that was the “meanest thought she ever had about herself” and realized that chasing youth is a war one can never win.

We are women. We like to look in the mirror and see a tight rear-end, a small waist and bouncy breasts. Whether it stems from nurture or nature, women will always look in the mirror and judge what they see.

So, this blog is not only for women my age, but more important, for all you gals in your teens and twenties. Your happiness with yourself should never stem from your appearance. So much of our fulfillment is victim to the desire to stay young and desirable. I am now inches away from the half century mark and for the first time in my life I am starting to feel settled with the body that God gave me. As a Fitness Coach I know people (mostly women) will look at my pictures on my website and social media and their first thought will be about my appearance. They will make some sort of assessment, and that’s okay. It’s human nature.

My lesson to you is this: it’s important to have a passion in life, dreams and goals. It’s important to feel good about what you can do, at any age, than how you want to appear to others. Women that are attractive are those who are passionate, confident, strong, focused outward and who can laugh at themselves. For all you young girls, the person who you ultimately spend the rest of your life with and who will love and respect you, will seek these qualities.  The people who hire you and the people who follow you will seek these qualities.

I am lucky to have had a mother who taught me at a young age that I could do anything, be anything.  She encouraged me to be a leader, to work hard, and to behave in a way that earned respect. She taught me how to enhance qualities that extend beyond the mirror and ultimately I realized that it’s those qualities that make one attractive to others.

What women do you truly admire, do you truly strive to be like, that have qualities that can help you grow and be a better person? Sure, I picked up the magazine because I admired Tea Leoni’s beauty. After getting to know her by reading the article I admired her more for her turning down parts that took her away from her kids, her willingness to take risks, and her generosity.

Walk past the mirror more often and know that you are beautiful for who you are.